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HotKiddush is a unique networking tool especially designed for the observant Jewish community. Unlike many other sites, HotKiddush is a serious web site geared toward facilitating real connections between real people. HotKiddush is not geared for users who wish simply to collect a large number of “friends” (which, in the Internet age, often refers to people who never even met, let alone established a genuine friendship), pass endless amounts of time involved in a fantasy social life, or create narcissistic profiles in an attempt to appear witty and cool. Rather, users of HotKiddush provide real information about various aspects of their true selves and hope to meet others they can connect with for personal or professional relationships in real life. Simply put, HotKiddush is meant to use the vast reach of the Internet not to foster the creation of online personas and imaginary relationships, but as a bridge to connect people in real life.

Precisely because your answers to these questions will distinguish your profile and emphasize your true self. One of the phenomena of the Internet age is that profiles on networking sites tend to be extremely superficial and it can be difficult to distinguish one person from the next. Whether you wish to use HotKiddush for personal or professional purposes, you give yourself the best chance of making quality connections by being honest and sharing meaningful information.

You do not have to reveal any deep personal secrets, nor do you have to answer any questions you don’t wish to answer, so feel free to do what is comfortable for you. In addition, you can answer some of the more personal questions and then reveal the responses on a question-by-question basis to different categories of connections. This gives you the power to customize who is able to see what, so those who you may wish to connect with but are not yet very close to you will not see deeply personal information.

Again, we do encourage you to create a full profile to help make meaningful connections, but how much or how little you respond to any individual question is entirely up to you.

As noted previously, HotKiddush is designed to facilitate qualitative connections. To take full advantage of HotKiddush, users are expected to connect only to those they know personally and can personally vouch for. This enables users who have mutual connections but don’t yet know one another to feel confident contacting one another for personal or professional purposes, knowing that their mutual contact can serve as a true reference and, if appropriate, act as an intermediary in facilitating the new connection. This is only possible if one’s relationships with his contacts are real and genuine; if one simply connects to everyone he ever met, once knew, or once came across on the Internet, his ability to serve as a reference is neutralized, and his relationships with all his contacts becomes questionable. Remember: HotKiddush is about real connections with real people!

In Judaism a hot Kiddush is an event that everyone is excited to attend and a place where friends introduce one another to those they know, an enjoyable place to network. We see HotKiddush as something like an online wedding meal, where friends of friends – people with mutual friends and similar backgrounds – have an opportunity to meet one another.

In our age people are so spread out and generally busy that it can be very difficult for friends of friends who should meet one another to ever have the opportunity. HotKiddush provides that opportunity.

Not exactly. After all, HotKiddush is open to both singles and married people, and is also designed for connections that have nothing to do with dating (professional, chessed, etc.). That said, HotKiddush provides a wonderful opportunity for singles to meet one another in a relatively natural and non-awkward fashion and to hopefully develop meaningful relationships.

Unlike dating sites, users cannot simply search or browse profiles and then contact anyone and everyone. Users of HotKiddush can only contact people in their extended range of contacts. In addition, because everyone in one’s extended ranges of contacts can be easily traced to someone the user knows and trusts, contacts between singles who do not know one another will not be random emails from people out of left field. This is designed to create a higher level of trust and a greater feeling of confidence and optimism when corresponding with someone new.

True, web sites that allow anyone to contact anyone else make it easier for people to make more connections more quickly…but what kind of connections are we then talking about? By limiting contacts to friends of friends one can feel more assured that they are dealing with a real person that they have something in common with and is contacting them with sincerity. After all, if your friends are solid people, chances are their other friends are solid as well – and it will certainly be easier for you to verify that!

Married people can certainly benefit from the networking opportunities that HotKiddush provides. But even married people who do not feel they need a networking opportunity or do not consider themselves Internet savvy are still highly encouraged to sign up with HotKiddush, create at least a minimal profile, and connect to those they know and trust. There is perhaps no better and simpler way for married people to help their single friends network and connect to one another than by doing this.

No longer do married people need to decide if they want to get involved with setting up their single friends and all the difficulties such an endeavor can entail; HotKiddush can function as both a supplement and an alternative to shadchanus (matchmaking). Married people who do not have the time or expertise to act as shadchanim (matchmakers) can provide an easy opportunity for their single friends to see one another’s profiles and contact each other directly or through the married person if they so choose. This system gives more power to singles to be proactive, yet still provides a helpful role to the mutual friend to act as an intermediary if needed or desired.